Patient Parenting

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I’ve never pretended to be the most patient in relation to parenting – but it was always one of my goals.  As a result, once dedicated to patience I slowly morphed into a fairly patient parent and raised some pretty amazing kids who are now productive adults.  Every parent loses their patience.  It is unavoidable and it is part of our humanness.  Our children are not perfect and neither are we as parents.

I believe that patience can be developed over time just like any other habit.  Good habits require your attention to ultimately see them manifest into your reality.  What better a habit could there be than to become a patient parent?

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Here are some techniques that may guide your parenting skills towards patience:

Count to ten.  This is an easy one.  When you feel frustrated or angry, pause. Count slowly, in your head, to ten.  When you’ve reach the number ten you will notice that you have given yourself room to pause, reassess a situation and your anger will have subsided a great deal.  If things are really out of control, add deep breathing while counting to ten in your head.  Breathe away every ounce of anger until it has left the room.

Here’s another one.  Try keeping a notepad nearby and write down any situations that are causing you to parent in a non-patient manner.  Notice if you see a pattern of behavior from either you or your child that is creating impulsive, angry responses.  This will assist you in developing ways to avoid bad reaction behavior patterns or situations that cause bad behavior in the first place.

How about a time out for the child.  A break for you.  You all may just need to take a break from the situation for a few minutes.  Everybody just calm down.  As a parent, during this break, plan your words, actions and decisions.  Reconnect with your child and calmly talk through the situation.  Finish with a hug.

Never stop teaching with love and compassion in your heart.  Our children mimic us.  Therefore, if you are aggressive in your parenting approach your child will reflect that pattern of behavior right back at you.  Remember, non of us learn things on our first try.  Find new ways to teach with love and compassion and patience.

Laugh.  Smile.  Let go.  Nobody is perfect, you have to enjoy this time with our kids.  Life should be fun – and funny.  Be happy.

Do you have some tips of your own on developing patience? Let us know in the comments.

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