Demonstrate Good Behavior


Demonstrate good behavior.  How you live your life is sending a message to everyone around you, especially to your children.

Your personal power is in what you do, not in what you say.  I’m sure you have heard the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words”.  Isn’t that the truth?  Are you happy and kind to others?  Do you gossip about others behind their back?  Do you proclaim that life is hard?  You see, how you behave in every situation around your children and how you treat others sends a very strong message about who you are.  What’s even more noteworthy is that it is in a child’s nature to pay close attention to the behavior that you demonstrate and to imitate your behavior.  Why?  It is an expression of a child’s love for you.  Children want to make us happy and show us love.  One way that children know how to express love is to simply behave as we do.

We are here, at Joy Kids Universe, to help you demonstrate to the children in your life that you are a force for positive change in the world.  The best place to start an avalanche of happiness is by demonstrating good behavior.  Don’t demonstrate a behavior of highlighting challenges.  Do demonstrate a behavior of creating solutions.  This is what you want to show your children.  This is what they will imitate.

I recently went to a seminar given by one of our Joy Kids Universe Advisory Board

Paint Brightly Every Daymembers Karen Garvey.  Karen is a wonderful light.  A person of excellence who is a shining example of how to live a life filled with uplifting action and purpose.  During the seminar Karen had two canvases hanging on the front wall.  One was a blank, white canvas and the other was a blank, black canvas.  Karen had one, purple marker in her hand.  The purple marker could leave a mark on either of the canvases.  But the only marks that could be seen were the marks on the white canvas.  What Karen was demonstrating was that when we choose to act on negativity and hardship and challenge we are, in essence, ’painting’ on a black canvas.  No matter how many times we ‘paint’ on a black canvas however, none of our brilliance can be seen.  On the contrary, when we choose to act on positivity and prosperity and wonder we are ‘painting’ on a white canvas for all the world to see our magnificence!  So let me ask you, what color is the canvas that your children are seeing you ’paint’ on?

Sometimes we are sent into unhappy places, not to ‘paint’ on a muted canvas, but rather to make a difference or to demonstrate positive and good behavior.  We cannot ‘paint’ on a child’s canvas, but we can demonstrate through our own behavior how we ‘paint’ on our own canvas.  We can project our brightly colored canvas towards any child’s canvas and shine a little light in their direction.  Sometimes love and compassion is all that is needed.

There is no need to offer your spoken advice when your are not being asked for it.  Just keep ‘painting’ your canvas with joy.  Love can never backfire.  When a child is ready to shift towards happier tomorrows they will choose to ‘paint’ as you do on a brighter canvas because they will want to live the way you have demonstrated your consistent, happy behavior.  Keep doing the right thing.  Keep being respectful.  Children will come across your path that need your light.  You can be kind.  You can be a positive influence in their life.  Children don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.  When you take time to ‘paint’ brightly in unhappy places, that is when your light has the greatest intensity.  Talk is cheap. Your actions are valuable.  Demonstrate good behavior.

Always give your best.  Let your actions do the talking.  ‘Paint’ brightly every day!

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #selflove #sharethejoy #evolution

You Are Good Enough


Imbedded in our parental DNA are traits from our own childhood upbringing.  If you take a moment and listen carefully you can almost hear your mother firmly suggesting that you ‘be quiet’ or your father impatiently demanding that you ‘sit down and finish your dinner’.

How many times have you told your child that she’s too noisy or too energetic?  Or perhaps your child is pensive and you announce to your friend that ‘she’s so shy’ or maybe that ‘it takes her a while to get used to new people’.

The above examples may seem like ordinary interactions between parent and child.  But to a child, this type of exchange slowly robs children of their desire to express themselves freely, they begin to develop feelings of imperfection and start dwelling in the land of misbelief in the form of ‘I’m not good enough.’

good_enoughYou may be thinking that I’m exaggerating a child’s feelings based on a few harmless and necessary directives.  But repetitive ‘corrections’ that dampen a young child’s creativity and free expression often produces teens who look for approval with everything in their life and tend to follow the crowd, leaving independent thought kicked to the curb.

Even before she speaks her first words, your child is good enough.  She is good enough to cry out when she is hungry.  She is good enough to take her first steps.  She is good enough to ride her first bike.  She is good enough to make little decisions from what shoes to wear with her shorts to when to put down the fork and stop eating.

It is a good idea to allow children to comfortably express their true feelings.  They are not the feelings of their friends or their parents, but their own.  They are independent feelings, regardless of what other people think.  True feelings are good enough feelings.

Demonstrate with your words and behavior, multiple times a day, how much you truly love your child.  Giving unconditional love is the greatest way for your child to establish a strong knowing that she is good enough.  Let us help you share positive moments with your child with our weekly Joy Kids Express or follow Joy Kids Universe on Pinterest for the latest Joy Kids Joy Tips. With a built-in ‘good enough’ compass she will grow into a very confident, compassionate, vibrant adult.

Do you have some thoughts of your own on this topic? Please leave your comments below.

By, Joanne Henig, Co-Founder
Joy Kids Universe, LLC
The Law of Attraction for Kids
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