Demonstrate Good Behavior

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Demonstrate good behavior.  How you live your life is sending a message to everyone around you, especially to your children.

Your personal power is in what you do, not in what you say.  I’m sure you have heard the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words”.  Isn’t that the truth?  Are you happy and kind to others?  Do you gossip about others behind their back?  Do you proclaim that life is hard?  You see, how you behave in every situation around your children and how you treat others sends a very strong message about who you are.  What’s even more noteworthy is that it is in a child’s nature to pay close attention to the behavior that you demonstrate and to imitate your behavior.  Why?  It is an expression of a child’s love for you.  Children want to make us happy and show us love.  One way that children know how to express love is to simply behave as we do.

We are here, at Joy Kids Universe, to help you demonstrate to the children in your life that you are a force for positive change in the world.  The best place to start an avalanche of happiness is by demonstrating good behavior.  Don’t demonstrate a behavior of highlighting challenges.  Do demonstrate a behavior of creating solutions.  This is what you want to show your children.  This is what they will imitate.

I recently went to a seminar given by one of our Joy Kids Universe Advisory Board

Paint Brightly Every Daymembers Karen Garvey.  Karen is a wonderful light.  A person of excellence who is a shining example of how to live a life filled with uplifting action and purpose.  During the seminar Karen had two canvases hanging on the front wall.  One was a blank, white canvas and the other was a blank, black canvas.  Karen had one, purple marker in her hand.  The purple marker could leave a mark on either of the canvases.  But the only marks that could be seen were the marks on the white canvas.  What Karen was demonstrating was that when we choose to act on negativity and hardship and challenge we are, in essence, ’painting’ on a black canvas.  No matter how many times we ‘paint’ on a black canvas however, none of our brilliance can be seen.  On the contrary, when we choose to act on positivity and prosperity and wonder we are ‘painting’ on a white canvas for all the world to see our magnificence!  So let me ask you, what color is the canvas that your children are seeing you ’paint’ on?

Sometimes we are sent into unhappy places, not to ‘paint’ on a muted canvas, but rather to make a difference or to demonstrate positive and good behavior.  We cannot ‘paint’ on a child’s canvas, but we can demonstrate through our own behavior how we ‘paint’ on our own canvas.  We can project our brightly colored canvas towards any child’s canvas and shine a little light in their direction.  Sometimes love and compassion is all that is needed.

There is no need to offer your spoken advice when your are not being asked for it.  Just keep ‘painting’ your canvas with joy.  Love can never backfire.  When a child is ready to shift towards happier tomorrows they will choose to ‘paint’ as you do on a brighter canvas because they will want to live the way you have demonstrated your consistent, happy behavior.  Keep doing the right thing.  Keep being respectful.  Children will come across your path that need your light.  You can be kind.  You can be a positive influence in their life.  Children don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.  When you take time to ‘paint’ brightly in unhappy places, that is when your light has the greatest intensity.  Talk is cheap. Your actions are valuable.  Demonstrate good behavior.

Always give your best.  Let your actions do the talking.  ‘Paint’ brightly every day!

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #selflove #sharethejoy #evolution

Precious Gifts

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Your family is a precious gift.  Think about your life without family.  Your husband or your wife.  Your children.  Your parents.  Your siblings.  Your cousins, aunts and uncles.  Your grandparents.  How empty would your world be without these precious gifts in your life?  Do you tell your family that you love and appreciate them?  If so, how often?  If not, why not?

One of the primary components required for developing healthy family relationships, is thechristmas-present-83119_960_720 expression of admiration towards one another.  Not just when a special occasion arrives, like a birthday or a holiday, but every day.  Every day is a new day and a chance to speak loving thoughts to those that you care about the most.  Can anyone tire from hearing ‘I love you’ or ‘You are beautiful’?  No.  I don’t believe so.  Understand that your expressions of admiration build a fortress that helps guard relationships against difficult times.  Every family faces difficult moments.  Protect your family with a fortress of love.

Your family needs to regularly hear your compliments.  Stay focused on their individual strengths.  Tell each of them what makes you proud of them … today.  Tell each of them what makes you grateful that you have them in your life – today.  Keep speaking your praise towards them and watch what happens.  THEY will achieve greater goals in their lives.  THEY will begin speaking praise over others, including praise over you.

If you cannot find anything complimentary to say, don’t say anything at all.  Smile upon your loved one. Wait until the storm passes within you.  When it does, proceed with expressing your love and your appreciation for them.

Set the example.  Treat your family with respect.  Watch over your children by giving them your undivided attention.  You will unwrap many gifts this holiday season.  Unwrap your most precious gifts, your family, with love and care.

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #evolution

 

When Challenged, Allow Appreciation In!

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There are times in our life when we all get tired, discouraged or become challenged.

We may be living in the house of our dreams, working at a well paying job that we sought after, and we may have family that we love all around us.  But sometimes we let fatigue set in and take control over our lives.  We dwell on popular buzzwords like overworked, drained, annoyed and even bored.

When we permit such toxic buzzwords to settle into our conversation they also settle into our mindset.  We suddenly find ourselves backing off of those things that give us joy.  And we plant seeds around our neighbors, coworkers and family that leave an impression that we lack desire.  We infect them with our toxicity.

When we are challenged by a long day at work, plenty of chores at home, or with a child that is sick; we can allow these things to consume us.  We can allow these things to captivate us.  However, we can choose to avoid the power that exhaustion has over us and instead build on the benefit of its challenge.

We can choose to put on a new attitude.  Become determined to remain in appreciation

Let Joy In

Let Joy In

and joy.  We can recognize that we have worked so hard and have already reaped such great rewards.  We will not allow all the goodness in our lives to be overshadowed by toxic buzzwords.   Instead of complaining we could be saying, “I know it’s only a passing storm.  I’ll be sailing on calmer seas in no time!”

The way things currently are in your life is temporary.  Keep your joy and enthusiasm, even during tough times.  Develop some positive self-talk.  Speak those positive words out loud.  “I enjoy working hard.  I am contributing to society.”  “I may have my sleep disrupted, but I gain an opportunity to bond with my child when I offer him comfort in the middle of the night.”  “Keeping up with the house maintenance is a pleasure because it makes my family proud to invite new friends into our home.”

Be grateful that you have challenges.  That means that you have a life filled with hope and promise.  The way you navigate through your challenges allows your co-workers, family, neighbors and friends an opportunity to learn something about your character.  Do you want them to learn that you are a complainer and a quitter?  Or would you rather have them know that they can lean on you when they are sailing through rough seas?

Always be your best.  Always do your best.  Always think your best.  Always speak your best.   Because dear joy-seeker, you are the best!

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #evolution