Demonstrate Good Behavior


Demonstrate good behavior.  How you live your life is sending a message to everyone around you, especially to your children.

Your personal power is in what you do, not in what you say.  I’m sure you have heard the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words”.  Isn’t that the truth?  Are you happy and kind to others?  Do you gossip about others behind their back?  Do you proclaim that life is hard?  You see, how you behave in every situation around your children and how you treat others sends a very strong message about who you are.  What’s even more noteworthy is that it is in a child’s nature to pay close attention to the behavior that you demonstrate and to imitate your behavior.  Why?  It is an expression of a child’s love for you.  Children want to make us happy and show us love.  One way that children know how to express love is to simply behave as we do.

We are here, at Joy Kids Universe, to help you demonstrate to the children in your life that you are a force for positive change in the world.  The best place to start an avalanche of happiness is by demonstrating good behavior.  Don’t demonstrate a behavior of highlighting challenges.  Do demonstrate a behavior of creating solutions.  This is what you want to show your children.  This is what they will imitate.

I recently went to a seminar given by one of our Joy Kids Universe Advisory Board

Paint Brightly Every Daymembers Karen Garvey.  Karen is a wonderful light.  A person of excellence who is a shining example of how to live a life filled with uplifting action and purpose.  During the seminar Karen had two canvases hanging on the front wall.  One was a blank, white canvas and the other was a blank, black canvas.  Karen had one, purple marker in her hand.  The purple marker could leave a mark on either of the canvases.  But the only marks that could be seen were the marks on the white canvas.  What Karen was demonstrating was that when we choose to act on negativity and hardship and challenge we are, in essence, ’painting’ on a black canvas.  No matter how many times we ‘paint’ on a black canvas however, none of our brilliance can be seen.  On the contrary, when we choose to act on positivity and prosperity and wonder we are ‘painting’ on a white canvas for all the world to see our magnificence!  So let me ask you, what color is the canvas that your children are seeing you ’paint’ on?

Sometimes we are sent into unhappy places, not to ‘paint’ on a muted canvas, but rather to make a difference or to demonstrate positive and good behavior.  We cannot ‘paint’ on a child’s canvas, but we can demonstrate through our own behavior how we ‘paint’ on our own canvas.  We can project our brightly colored canvas towards any child’s canvas and shine a little light in their direction.  Sometimes love and compassion is all that is needed.

There is no need to offer your spoken advice when your are not being asked for it.  Just keep ‘painting’ your canvas with joy.  Love can never backfire.  When a child is ready to shift towards happier tomorrows they will choose to ‘paint’ as you do on a brighter canvas because they will want to live the way you have demonstrated your consistent, happy behavior.  Keep doing the right thing.  Keep being respectful.  Children will come across your path that need your light.  You can be kind.  You can be a positive influence in their life.  Children don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.  When you take time to ‘paint’ brightly in unhappy places, that is when your light has the greatest intensity.  Talk is cheap. Your actions are valuable.  Demonstrate good behavior.

Always give your best.  Let your actions do the talking.  ‘Paint’ brightly every day!

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #selflove #sharethejoy #evolution

Precious Gifts


Your family is a precious gift.  Think about your life without family.  Your husband or your wife.  Your children.  Your parents.  Your siblings.  Your cousins, aunts and uncles.  Your grandparents.  How empty would your world be without these precious gifts in your life?  Do you tell your family that you love and appreciate them?  If so, how often?  If not, why not?

One of the primary components required for developing healthy family relationships, is thechristmas-present-83119_960_720 expression of admiration towards one another.  Not just when a special occasion arrives, like a birthday or a holiday, but every day.  Every day is a new day and a chance to speak loving thoughts to those that you care about the most.  Can anyone tire from hearing ‘I love you’ or ‘You are beautiful’?  No.  I don’t believe so.  Understand that your expressions of admiration build a fortress that helps guard relationships against difficult times.  Every family faces difficult moments.  Protect your family with a fortress of love.

Your family needs to regularly hear your compliments.  Stay focused on their individual strengths.  Tell each of them what makes you proud of them … today.  Tell each of them what makes you grateful that you have them in your life – today.  Keep speaking your praise towards them and watch what happens.  THEY will achieve greater goals in their lives.  THEY will begin speaking praise over others, including praise over you.

If you cannot find anything complimentary to say, don’t say anything at all.  Smile upon your loved one. Wait until the storm passes within you.  When it does, proceed with expressing your love and your appreciation for them.

Set the example.  Treat your family with respect.  Watch over your children by giving them your undivided attention.  You will unwrap many gifts this holiday season.  Unwrap your most precious gifts, your family, with love and care.

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #evolution


Kindness Towards Others


Today I’d like for us to think about how we can be thoughtful and compassionate towards others.

Let’s go ahead and make someone else’s day and in return let’s receive the uplifting rewards that will surely be returned to us ten-fold.  Small acts of kindness allows for peace to travel deep into our being.  And peace is what we all seek for our lives.

You don’t have to look very far or try very hard to find ways to be good to others.  It’s perfectly fine to be kind to someone you don’t even know.  You may want to consider offering compassion towards someone that has become so familiar to you, like your spouse, sibling or a parent, whom you may have unintentionally taken for granted from time to time.

You will feel great delight in your heart, particularly when acts of thoughtfulness

Be thoughtful and compassionate towards others.

Be thoughtful and compassionate towards others.

become a daily habit. Don’t wait for a special occasion.  Ordinary days can be transformed into extraordinary days when little moments of thoughtfulness are gifted to others.  Be the shift in someone else’s day.  Be a bright light in a world shrouded in fear.  Others will wonder why you’re always smiling.  Why you’re always on the winning side of life.  You will know why and you can show others why; with your actions.  A simple act of kindness can change someone’s day for the better.  By planting seeds of kindness into someone else’s day you will, in affect, be growing acres of kindness across the far reaches humanity.

The more you are kind to others the more others will be kind to you.  If you want to reach your grandest self you have to be good to others.  Great abundance will be returned to you in many forms.  Love.  Friendship.  Career.  And so much more.

We were created to create.  In other words, we are not here to sit around and wait for good circumstances to come to us.  We are here to create our circumstances.  If you enjoy being treated warmly with expressions of love, then you must offer warm expressions of love.

A ‘me, me, me’ attitude is a selfish attitude and will return nothing but isolation.  A ‘we, we, we’ attitude is a selfless attitude and will return nothing but blessings.  If you are seeking a lifetime of happiness, be good to others.

Our children can learn so much from our examples of thoughtfulness, compassion, kindness and of giving to others.  In fact, one of the first lessons we teach children is to share.  Share a toy, for example.  It is not that your child is not deserving of the toy.  But when we ask our children to share their toys what we are really asking them to do is be thoughtful to others, to be compassionate, to be kind and to be a giver.

As we roll into the holiday season, let’s remember to be thoughtful and compassionate towards others.  More importantly, when the holiday season is over, continue to practice thoughtfulness and compassion each day so that it becomes a habit ingrained deep in your being.  Not only will your life be blessed with great abundance, but the lives of others will expand with great joy as well.

Happy holidays!

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By, Joanne Henig, President / Co-Founder / Author / #evolution